Parent Tips – Model Desired Behavior

Remember to:

  1. Be consistent
  2. Be positive
  3. Be patient

1. Listen and follow adult directions.  Parent tips to help reinforce skills:

  • Limit the number of directions, start with one at a time and then increase
  • Be specific and brief (ex. Instead of set the table, please put these plates on the table)
  • Redirect your child if he/she gets distracted
  • Positively acknowledge your child’s attempt

2. Signal to talk or if you need help

  • If someone else is talking wait your turn to talk. Use a hand
  • Encourage your child to be respectful example “Excuse me”
  • Take turns going around the dinner table telling about your day
  • Acknowledge your child when they wait his/her turn

3. Match voice to activity

  • If someone else is talking wait your turn to talk.
  • Encourage your child to be respectful example “Excuse me”
  • Take turns going around the dinner table telling about your day
  • Acknowledge your child when they wait their turn

4. Use kind words

  • Encourage the use of please and thank you
  • Use positive words. Example: good game, nice try
  • Encourage compliments of others

5. Keep personal space

  • Teach a respect for other’s personal space
  • Define personal space for each family member

6. Gather materials for activity

  • Keep routine- Examples: put clothes out the night before, pack the backpack and put by the door, have breakfast choices ready for the morning.
  • Encourage independence- have a checklist of needed items and keep in a designated area. Example water bottle, backpack, lunch, and sneakers
  • Allow sufficient time to get ready

7. Start and complete your work within a set time

  • Keep a homework routine: Have a set time and place for homework

8. Put things where they belong

  • Create kid friendly storage
  • Keep things in designated area. Examples- markers and pencils are in the center drawer.

9. Express feelings appropriately / Work Cooperatively

  • Encourage the use of please and thank you
  • Play games to have fun, not to win
  • Assemble games and pick up together
  • Use positive words. Example: good game, nice try
  • Encourage child to take a minute before expressing frustration
  • Have your child attach words to his/her feelings using I statements. Examples- I feel mad that I lost.
  • Validate their feelings and offer suggestions for managing their feelings: Example -I hear that you were sad maybe it’s a good time to listen to music, read a book, or ride your bike.